The Over-Sexualization of America
Part 1: The Pros & Cons of an Over-Sexualized America for Women
Disclaimer: In this reading, I mention high, mid, and low-quality men. For this reading, the quality of men is not directly linked to their money, status, and attractiveness. The quality of men is more directly related to the characteristics it took for men to improve and achieve success that increased their money, status, and attractiveness. All men’s greatest desire is to have sex with beautiful women, but the highest quality men, put that urge to the side to focus on creating value and sharing it with the world. Whereas lower-quality men tend to prioritize the pursuit of women and are more passive about the value they could make for society and share with others. High-quality men are more willing to turn down attractive women if there are too many red flags, while mid to low-quality men will likely ignore red flags and do whatever they can to be with beautiful women.
Introduction
It is commonly said that “sex sells”. However, I think sex does a lot more than sell, and it is time to have an honest conversation about it. A man’s desire to have sex with beautiful women is the greatest motivating factor in the world for men to be productive and add value to the economy. Man’s desire to have sex with beautiful women is what inspired man to create, innovate, and protect civilization. Without a man’s desire to have sex with beautiful women, humanity might still be in caves hiding as prey. No motivating factor in the world comes close to inspiring men to conquer the unknowns, create civilization, and protect it to make humans the apex predators of the world like the desire to have sex with attractive women. It's not necessarily good or bad, it's just reality. Thinking deeper, women do not have the physical ability to achieve the economic production of men, but they don't have to because naturally, they attract the opposite sex much easier than a man can attract a woman. Therefore, women do not have the inspiration to be an economic powerhouse because they are the rulers of sex. Women start adulthood valuable, and their job is preservation, which appears difficult in modern America. With men, they begin adulthood with little to no value, and their job is to earn it, which most do not. In the early days of dating in America, competent men were rewarded with virgin wives and families. Today, men are rewarded with used women and broken families. Relationships and marriages appear to be a nightmare in modern America. One of the greatest plagues of America is the over-sexualization of society. It is difficult to fully blame one gender, as most women can attract sexual attention no matter what they wear, and most men are programmed to think with their little heads more than their big heads, but in this space, we do not play the victim. I do not intend to change society. I will adjust and adapt to avoid being on the unfavorable end of an over-sexualized society, and hopefully inspire others to do the same. Let us discuss the pros and cons of an oversexualized society for women.
Pros: Women get unlimited attention
Men value sex from women the same way how women value attention from men. Dating is essentially a dance between men and women where women leverage their beauty and sexuality for the highest quality male attention they can get, and men leverage their resources and charm to get access to sex. Women tend to have the upper hand in the dance because men generally value sex with women more than women value a man’s resources. However, with social media, porn, and women in the workforce, society is more sexualized than ever before. This brings women unlimited access to male attention at the swipe of their smartphones. Just like all sex is not good sex for men, it is the same way that all attention is not good attention for women. But it's still sex, just like it’s still attention, which means male attention is generally a good thing for women. It makes women feel good about themselves to get male attention. Male attention validates women like how sex and the privilege to reproduce as a man validate him. However, most men in history have not or will not get the opportunity to reproduce. Then, there are those men who do not want to have children, so men are essentially forced to seek validation in other areas like worldly accomplishments and internally, which increases a man’s attractiveness to women, and improves his chances of being intimate with beautiful women. In the inverse, most women have easy access to sex and the ability to reproduce. Because her value is given to her in her early adult years, and she must only preserve her value, she does not get the same validation a man receives for his participation in the workforce. Instead, she gets her validation from the quality of the man she can attract, along with his money, energy, attention, and time. Attention is the most important to her, like intimacy with women being the most important to him. Therefore, an oversexualized society gives special privileges to women who take part, which appears to be the overwhelming majority. From the over-sexualized ways they dress in public, the workplace, places of worship, the gym, and on social media, western women have unlimited access to male attention. Directly, most of the male attention might be unwanted. However, it gives women great leverage over the men who will pursue them. Because of an over-sexualized society, women can extract resources from men without giving sex. Instead, they bait and tease men in leggings and revealing tops, and men line up to fulfill her often unrealistic dating standards. Mostly all the low to mid-quality men give her unlimited free attention, which is her bargaining chip to try to out-negotiate higher-quality men in her prime dating years if she’s sexy and beautiful enough. Some over-sexualized women are successful at out-negotiating high-quality men out of their resources. Of course, the highest quality men, which is a tiny percentage ultimately win at dating because since these men are high quality and rare, they get the easiest access to sex from the most attractive women, in their prime years in exchange for the possibility of access to his resources, like she dangles the possibility of sex to average and low-quality men. Most men are not high quality, and most women who have access to these men are only for sexual access, just like most men who have access to beautiful women get taken on a ride in which they have to give up resources. Instead, most men end up freely giving away their money, energy, attention, and time with no reciprocation just by women advertising the possibility of sex, which is a pro for them.
Pro: Access to High-Quality Men
In an oversexualized society, most women who take part have access to high-quality men. This is both a gift and a curse. A gift because attractive women can get special opportunities, lifestyle accommodations, and access to resources that men must earn on their own. The curse is that the access at least implies that there will be sexual favors in return. However, even though these men want sex, and could easily replace low-interest women for high-interest women who will give sex for the possibility of extracting resources from these men, some high-quality men do not know their value, allowing attractive women to extract unlimited resources from them without sex in return. Now, most high-quality men are not giving away their resources to women without sex, but some will and even the access to these men gives the women the power position in most to all their dating options. Because women who over-sexualize themselves can scroll through social media and access high-quality men, mid to low-quality men tend to go above and beyond to have access to these women. So, mid to low quality men might not have the resources to spend on over-sexualized women. But they can extract higher percentages of the resources from multiple low to mid-quality men, which works in their favor. The more over-sexualized women experience a taste of the attention of high-quality men, the more subconsciously they demand from mid to low-quality men. High-quality men generally have an abundance mindset with women. Just like attractive and over-sexualized women know they could replace their men easily without ever having to fix their character flaws by advertising the possibility of sex. It is the same way these high-quality men could replace these women by advertising the possibility of exchanging resources, and it’s not only about the money, fame, or looks that these women are drawn to. The greatest reward is the attention these women get from high quality men, and how they can leverage their social media and over-sexualized image in public to get more attention and extract a higher percentage of resources from mid to low-quality men. Oversexualized women have access to high-quality men, which makes them feel that they could have unrealistic demands of resources from mid to low-quality men, which these men are willing to try to fulfill just because of the possible access to sex.
Pro: No Social Shame, Stigma, or Punishment
Family, religion, and government in early America would shame, stigmatize, and not incentivize individuals who engage in an over-sexualized society. Today, family is no longer a requirement for women, religion takes a backseat to entertainers on the influence of culture, and the government rewards individuals who engage in irresponsible sexual behavior by punishing the taxpayers who do not, which is the perfect recipe for a degenerate society. Women could dress as provocatively as they want in public, the workplace, and often religious centers without considering that it may be inappropriate. They could engage in endless hedonism and debauchery, display their sexuality in vanity on social media, and all the consequences of what would be considered bad decisions in a normal society are forgiven and often rewarded. In an oversexualized America, women are never wrong. There is no system in place to correct women’s bad attitudes, behaviors, and decision-making, which puts women in the power position societally. Even though men built, innovated, and sustained everything in society, men’s main motivation to do so has always been sex with attractive women. So, even though the over-sexualized mentality of many American women is a red flag for marriage, relationships, and even sexual encounters, men still line up happily for all of the above just by women advertising the possibility of sex. Over-sexualized women may not get relationships from the men that they truly desire, but they can get them from the rest of the desperate men who will bend over backward to give them the world, which is a much higher percentage than men who have boundaries and standards. There is no guilt, no shame, no punishment, or correction because in an oversexualized society, as long as she stays sexy and attractive, there are always other men lined up to clean up her mess she never has to take accountability and responsibility for creating.
Cons: Attracts Mostly Low-Quality Men
As mentioned in one of the pros, women do have access to high-quality men in an over-sexualized America. However, the reality is that most women get unwanted, unsolicited, and inappropriate attention from low-quality men. And because the high-quality men are primarily using women for sex in their prime mating years, with no commitment, in their minds, women who are declining in beauty, fertility, and youth must settle for mid-quality men when the high-quality men are through with them. These relationships ultimately do not work because the foundation is built on lust from men and vanity from women, which is unstable at best. Then, when those relationships with mid-quality men fail, women age, and accumulate scars from trauma and heartbreak, and their fertility decreases, as well as the sparkle in their eyes, these women now are only eligible for low-quality men who put their desire to have sex with women above all. As mentioned earlier, I do not deny that sex is the greatest urge of a man. Sex with attractive women has been the main driving factor to economic excellence in America. However, high-quality men and mid-quality to a certain extent place the value they add to others and society over the pursuit of desirable women because the chase is an opportunity cost against unlocking excellence as a man. Also, women tend to have more of a genuine burning desire for men that puts the purpose and value they add to society over the pursuit of women. Over-sexualized women might attract high-quality men in their prime, beauty, mating, and youthful years. Unfortunately, as these women age, while still only focused on improving their beauty and sex appeal, avoiding character improvement and the ability to get along with men, they eventually must settle for mid to low-quality men. Often for over-sexualized women who experienced a taste of high-quality men, it is better for these women to be single than to be with mid to low-quality men.
Cons: Sexual Assault, Rape, Unplanned Parenting, and STDs
Imagine sitting on a boat dock to an open body of water with only legs in the water. There is at least a small chance that a shark could attack and bite a leg off. However, if that same individual were to cut their leg, and place the bleeding leg in the water, the shark would smell blood in the water and be more likely to attack. In comparison, even with the classiest, most modest, and respectable women, there is still always a chance for unwanted and unfortunate sexual advances from low-quality men, however, women who over-sexualize themselves are like the individual who cut their legs to bleed and places it in the water. It is almost like they’re asking the shark to bite off their leg. What makes matters worse is that, unlike respectable women who are more likely to earn protection from high-quality men, only a pimp could truly protect a woman who entertains sexual immorality. Entertaining sexual immorality means over-sexualizing themselves in public and on social media. Modest women appear to be looked down upon by the mob of over-sexualized women because they prove that respectable women could still be attractive and elegant without advertising sex, which in a way, brings great shame. The over-sexualization of women in America brings out the worst in men. Instead of having integrity, virtue, and purpose in life to attract women in the way men truly desire, all men must do to arouse women in an over-sexualized America is tell comforting lies, offer excitement no matter how immoral or criminal their lifestyle is, and his main purpose to her is to do it as good or better than all the other men she had bedroom fun with. As much as this is not a noble way to live as a man, even if it means getting sex with women, some low-quality men will do worse things to get sex from women. High and mid-quality men will use oversexualized women for sex but will likely not commit to them in a meaningful relationship where the women would get protection. As much as a high to mid-quality man would want an over-sexualized woman for bedroom fun, he likely will not want these women to be part of his image publicly. Therefore, without the protection of a good-quality man, over-sexualized women open themselves up to the dark and predatory nature of low-quality men, they open the door for incurable STDs, and create single-parent households, which is a competitive disadvantage to their children. Then the good-quality men who might want to protect these women because it is installed in a man’s nature to protect a woman, know that it is foolish to with over-sexualized women because they must first give up control so they can be protected from themselves. Pimps appear to be the only kind of men skilled enough to get over-sexualized women to give up their power to be protected.
Cons: Quality Men Avoid Commitment
As mentioned before, a very tiny percentage of men could turn off their sexual desire for women. When the opportunity presents itself, sex is very difficult to avoid for men, especially the more attractive and sexualized a woman is, and the lower quality the man is. True high-quality men will turn down sex with most women who do not add value to their life beyond bedroom fun. However, most men will never turn down the opportunity to have sex with most women, and they will tell comforting lies to get her. Therefore, relationships are a terrible deal for men in an over-sexualized dating market. Good quality men have the leverage to charm the most beautiful, youthful, fertile, pure, and compliant women. So even though good-quality men will use over-sexualized women to fulfill their sexual desires, he knows it is a bad deal to form a relationship with her for a variety of reasons. Over-sexualized women are more than likely to be promiscuous, which to start takes away their purity. Then, because of the power that being sexy gives, she often abuses it in her youth, which takes away her youthful joy that excites men. Then, beauty happens to be perishable and seems to fade the more trauma and scars that come regularly in an over-sexualized dating market in America. These women spend their prime fertility years entertaining men who would never commit to them and will never give them a monogamous relationship, opening the door to unfavorable parenting situations. Most men in an over-sexualized dating market might lie to women about giving them monogamy, however, it is the comforting lies that are used as the master key for men to get access to over-sexualized women. So, it would be wise for women who blame men who lie to them to correct the character flaw that allowed his lies to make it to her most prized possession. Last, with all the trauma, heartbreak, and lies that an over-sexualized woman has endured in the war of the over-sexualized market in America, it is unlikely that she will ever be a compliant woman. Men will engage with over-sexualized women during their prime years and after. but a commitment and relationship is a bad deal because he truly gets nothing that he values beyond sex, and her engagement in an over-sexualized market and sexually immoral behavior with multiple men does not deserve a relationship from a good quality man. The good news for women is that more men than not will take the bad deal, and these men deserve their lives to be ruined by over-sexualized women if they ignore the red flags.
Conclusion
The pros of an over-sexualized society for women are the web of attention that women attract, they have access to high-quality men, and it is no longer shamed and looked down upon in society. The cons are that they also attract the worst kind of men, it opens the door for unfavorable sexual encounters, and good quality men tend to avoid oversexualized women for long-term relationships and commitment. When it comes to men, it is not a lie that they mainly think about beauty and sex when it comes to women. However, men are better people when it is more difficult to see them naked. One could argue that this is the easiest time in human history to see women naked and get sexual favors due to the over-sexualized nature of the dating market in America. Overall, it is not good for America to be over-sexualized because it leads to a degenerate society, however, there are aspects of it that help women, and they have the right and power to capitalize off it. As mentioned before, I’m not writing this to change society. I’m just here to give my perspective on an over-sexualized America, and hopefully give enough information for men and women to be cautious of their participation. Sex is a main part of our existence as human beings, but, unfortunately, it is thrown in our faces in almost every aspect of society. The worst part is that although women happily accept all the benefits of over-sexualizing themselves, they ultimately depend on the government and low-quality men to save them from the consequences of their contribution to sexual immorality in America. If there is one thing I could achieve from this writing, it would be that as much as men and women can embrace the pleasure and reward of sexually deviant behavior, leave room to accept the unfavorable outcomes and consequences that come along with it too, and try to suffer without putting too much of the trauma and punishment on others that did not cause the pain, like good quality men, and hard-working taxpayers.
If you enjoyed and were informed by this reading, please consider reading the fiction novels Face Maskculinity(fantasy/romance/dark fiction), and In Love with the Chimera (romance/mystery/thriller) where the theme of an over-sexualized society is covered in both. Stay tuned for part 2: Pros and Cons of an Over-sexualized Society for Men.
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